Proverbs 17:14

English NIV

Proverbs 17:14 — English NIV

Starting a quarrel is like breaching a dam; so drop the matter before a dispute breaks out.

What Does This Mean?

Proverbs 17:14 warns that starting an argument is like opening a floodgate; once it starts, it's hard to stop. The verse encourages stopping arguments before they begin. The key message is to avoid conflict before it escalates.

Explained for Children

Imagine you have a dam that holds back a lot of water. When you open the dam, water rushes out and it’s hard to stop. This verse is saying that starting an argument is like opening that dam, so it’s best to stop before you start the argument.

Historical Background

Proverbs was written by King Solomon, a wise king of Israel, around 950 BCE. It was intended for the people of Israel, offering wisdom for daily living and decision-making in a culture that valued practical and moral guidance.

Living It Out Today

In a modern scenario, imagine you are at work and a small disagreement arises over a project. Instead of letting it grow into a larger argument, the verse suggests addressing the disagreement calmly and respectfully, and possibly stepping away before it gets worse.

Topics

• conflict resolution
• wisdom
• peace
• communication
• self-control
• argument

Related Verses

• James 1:19-20
• Proverbs 15:1
• Matthew 5:23-24
• Ephesians 4:29
• James 3:1-12

Recommended Reading

Conflict resolution Books on conflict resolution → Wisdom Books on wisdom → Commentary Proverbs Commentaries → Get This Bible NIV Study Bible →

Frequently Asked Questions

What does 'letting out water' mean in Proverbs 17:14?

It means that starting a conflict is like opening a floodgate; once you start, it becomes hard to stop the flow of the argument, much like water flowing out of an open dam.

How can one apply Proverbs 17:14 in daily life?

One can apply this by stopping arguments or conflicts before they start by choosing to respond calmly and respectfully, stepping back if necessary, and seeking to understand the other person’s perspective.

Why is it important to leave off contention?

Leaving off contention is important because it helps maintain peace and harmony in relationships and prevents unnecessary escalation of conflict, which can lead to harmful outcomes.

Can you give an example of when to use Proverbs 17:14?

An example could be when a disagreement arises in a family or at work. Before the situation gets worse, one can use this verse as a reminder to address the issue calmly and respectfully, or to step away to avoid escalation.